Fall Into Self-Care
This past weekend I had a big reminder about the importance of caring for one’s physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, and relational well-being. My reminder involved Brandon (my husband) being in the emergency room because stress and anxiety had caused his blood pressure to be way too high. He is on the road to recovery and I have been inspired to think a little bit more about self-care. I’m writing this post as much for him and for myself as for anyone else. I hope you find it inspiring but I am also hoping that it helps me to not just think about self-care but to put it into action for both of us.
When I was a child, fall was my favorite time of year. The leaves changing and the weather getting cooler but not too cold. I grew up out in the woods in a rural area so there were bonfires and hayrides. School was back in session but things had not yet gotten too busy or crazy with pilgrims, turkey, holiday plays, and white elephant gift exchanges. The days between Labor Day and Halloween seemed to be insignificantly plain and normal.
Now as an adult and an entrepreneur, September and October are some of my busiest times of the year. There are lots of business transactions to do and meetings to have. My email inbox explodes every day. September 2015, I almost had a nervous breakdown. September 2016, I made it through but only barely. I am writing this on October 10 so there are still 21 days to go in October. I am hoping I make it through the roller coaster that I know is still to come. Plus, I know that the holidays are about to come with their own sense of busyness and chaos.
I am going back to my childhood roots and trying to capture some of the insignificantly plain and normal aspects of these fall days. Here are the advice top 5 pieces of advice I am giving myself…
Reconnect with the fall season as it occurs in nature. Find some trees whose leaves are changing color. Find some leaves to crunch under your feet as you walk. You really enjoyed this as a child. Connect with your inner-child and have some fun.
Do what you can, but remember you’re not superwoman (read that as if it rhymes). Plus, even superwoman could NOT save or please everyone. If you do your best and work your allotted hours, you should feel good about the results.
When there is too much on your to-do list, prioritization is the key to feel good about the results of doing your best with the time you have. When you prioritize you know you are getting the right things done and the things you are not able to get to are less important that the things you did.
Stick with what you know works. For example, you know limiting your diet in certain ways makes you feel so much better. Do not give in to all the sweets and treats starting to appear everywhere. Be good to your body and you will have the energy you need for the big tasks ahead. Sticking with what you know works applies to so many other things too… your budget, your time spent with friends, and so much more. Stick with what you know works.
Another thing your childhood self knew will help you now too. Do not take yourself too seriously. In cliché terms, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” In deeper terms, have some grace for yourself and those around you. When you are stressed you can tend toward being a little too feisty, especially inward. Make this a season full of grace.
Check back in in a couple weeks and I will let you know how it is going. In the meantime, comment and share how you are struggling or thriving this time of year.